Hija de Gloria | Gloria’s Daughter

Soy hija de Gloria. Hija de guerrera. Esta es la historia de mi mamá. Y también mi terapia.

I’m Gloria’s daughter. Daughter of a warrior. This is my mom’s story. And my therapy.

“Grief does not change you, it reveals you.” I read that somewhere. Seven months ago, grief exposed me. Inside and out. Shattered my heart into tiny, tiny pieces. The notion that grief does not change you is frankly absurd.

March 14, 2021

That’s the day I lost my mom. Soy hija de Gloria.

The day my mom died of cancer. Hija de guerrera.

I wasn’t ready to lose her. I wasn’t ready to exist in this world without her.

My mom didn’t even know. She had no idea that cancer had been consuming her body or for how long. And then everything happened so fast.

Feb. 19, 2021 – Primary doctor sends my mom to the hospital.

March 5, 2021 – It’s cancer and it’s everywhere. Doctors give her a week.

March 14, 2021 – Around 5:42 a.m., my mom passes away peacefully.

Three weeks and two days

We had three weeks and two days. Not enough. Not even close.

I’m not sure what this will turn into, but I know I need to write. Mi terapia.

I know I need to honor her and share her story. I need to write through the grief. The grief that changed me. The grief that revealed exposed me.

“Keep writing, mija, just keep writing!”

She said this to me so many times over the years. She loved my writing. She used to clip my articles from the newspaper.

Years later when I started a blog during my divorce, she would print out every blog entry, make copies and pass them out at her jazzercise class. I promise you, I’m not making this up.

I eventually stopped keeping up with that blog because, well… life.

“Keep writing, mija!”

I will, mom. Te prometo. I promise.

Soy hija de Gloria. Hija de guerrera. Esta es la historia de mi mamá. Y mi terapia.

I’m Gloria’s daughter. Daughter of a warrior. This is my mom’s story. And my therapy.

1973: A 26-six-year-old Gloria and 4-year-old me pose for a photo in our one bedroom house in Tolleson, Ariz.

15 thoughts on “Hija de Gloria | Gloria’s Daughter

  1. She loved to read what your wrote and to share it with all her girlfriends. She found strength in the vulnerability you showed in writing about your divorce. She shared it because she new it would help other women to be stronger and more independent. She was such an advocate for people, especially women. Keep writing Mija, you are helping more than yourself and your mom is loving it❤️

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  2. Love this. I have not experienced the loss of a mother but I have lost a daughter to cancer and my father to cancer. Writing is the best therapy. I look forward to reading your thoughts. I love the pictures of your mother.

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    1. I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter and your father. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and for your kinds words. I’m now the keeper of my mom’s photos so I will keep sharing them.

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  3. Your Mom was so special to me or I should say to us. I knew she was going to be more than a friend. I know everybody grief differently. I get sad. She left a big hole in my heart. And I think reading about her and you will not only help you but also all the people that loved your Mom. I can’t wait to red about her stories. RIP. Gloria. Que descanse en paz.

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    1. You were special to her too. She loved the time she spent with you in your home, at your get togethers. She touched so many lives, I’m realizing that now. It’s why so many of us are missing her. Thank you for reading my blog. I’ll continue to tell her story and share our stories.

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  4. So powerful. Our moms were very similar, I think, in that they both encouraged us to write. Funny that we choose to write about them. That’s a message in and of itself.

    I laughed out loud about the jazzercise class handouts! She sounds like she was a great lady. I love the header photo as well — it’s a fantastic image.

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    1. My mom was a hoot! Before there was Facebook, she would email me dirty jokes every Saturday morning. After Facebook, she would just throw them on my timeline for the world to see. Yeah, I think our moms would have hit it off. That image shows my mom in her element – feet kicked up, coffee in hand.

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  5. Hija de Gloria… Keep writing ! Thank you for sharing your story ! I know the feeling of grief, and of losing a loved one suddenly. My father was diagnosed with lung cancer in November of 2018 and left us by January 2019. The shock , loss still hurts. I don’t believe I will ever get over it . I too thought I should write my thoughts but I never started …. I too was diagnosed with cancer ( breast cancer) a year to the day my father was. My battle began and so that is why I did not start . Now that I’m in remission, GRACIAS A DIOS🙏, And I’ve read your writing , I’m motivating . Maybe I’ll start GRACIAS 🙏 Bendiciones!

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    1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Elsa. My heart goes out to you. If you do start a blog, please send me the link so I can read it and follow your blog. I’m really happy to hear that you’re in remission. Please take care of yourself and keep in touch. Cuidate, amiga.

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