The last week of my mom’s life

March 7, 2021 It’s Saturday and I’ve spent most of the night searching for a trio of mariachis who can come to my mom’s house on very short notice (14 hours to be exact). I have to make this happen. Over the years, I had promised my mom that one day she’d wake up toContinue reading “The last week of my mom’s life”

I’m glad my mom isn’t here

I miss my mom so much. I talk about her every single day. I think about her. I look at her photos. I look for signs that she’s nearby in some way. But I’m glad she’s not here. Let me explain. My mom was a Democrat. A die-hard, true blue, fighter of civil rights, advocateContinue reading “I’m glad my mom isn’t here”

Happy Birthday, Mom

September 17, 2023 It’s just after midnight. I’ve been checking the time all night, anxiously waiting for the clock to strike twelve, for the calendar in my head to turn the page to the 17th. My mom would have been 76 today. Rephrase… My mom should have been 76 today. But Cancer took that fromContinue reading “Happy Birthday, Mom”

Letting go of my mom’s house

I’ve been putting this off. I wanted to be in a better and stronger head space. I wanted to write this with my head held high. I wanted to make her proud. The truth is my shoulders are slumped as I write through my tears. I’m riddled with guilt, and I’m overcome with shame. IContinue reading “Letting go of my mom’s house”

Phantom smells trigger real memories

After the flour, salt and baking powder have been mixed together, and you’ve mixed in the manteca, and you’ve added in the water, and the dough has come together as you knead it with your hands, there’s a slight but unmistakable scent. La masa. It was the smell of wet dough that caught my attention.Continue reading “Phantom smells trigger real memories”